Tuesday, June 13, 2006

there's something about science...


This links directly to Loic Lemeur's blog about Al's Gore movie.

Now see this link

the exact contrary of Al Gore's speach... stange no....


Saturday, April 29, 2006

DR Feel Good said read this text so I did.

This is a forward I received from Asia, there are a few spelling mistakes but the message is great.

Enhancing relationships

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".



A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"

The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.



A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. If I don't go out, willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.


Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.



Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.



There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered, "You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.



Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?" Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."

The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.



This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "But when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Monday, February 20, 2006

En Français, le Bien et le Mal, Réalité et Potentiel

Good vs Evil

Le Bien et le Mal sont des concepts inventés par des humains pour expliquer les choix d'individus humains.

La Moralité est une autre invention, un autre mot...

Oublions les mots pour un instant.

L'etre humain est l'organisme le plus evolué que l'on connaisse, un animal capable de penser, de conscience et donc de choix. Ce qui fait l'humain c'est le potentiel à travers le choix.

Tout ce qui peut etre imaginé par l'humain, peu ensuite etre transposé dans la realité partagée par tous.

On peu rêver de voler, et ensuite essayer d'appliquer ce rêve à la réalité...
On peu rêver de violer, et ensuite essayer d'appliquer ce rêve a la réalité (ou pas)...

Beaucoup de personnes vraisemblablement géniales restent au stade de génie potentiel, par manque d'action (avec les regrets que cela engendre souvent...)
Beaucoup de personnes plus intellectuelement hermétiques, voire stupide, réussissent à faire de grandes choses (pas toujours bonnes...) en agissant beaucoup et réflechissant peu.

L'idée souvent reçu est que le "Bien" doit coexister avec le "Mal" dans la realité partagée des humains pour atteindre un équilibre. Cet équilibre fluctue dans le temps et est constamment remis en cause.
Cette idéologie ne permet pas d'espérer une paix durable pour l'humain mais plutôt des moments paisibles.

D'où le concept de Réalité vs Potentiel de Réalité.

La Réalité est partagée par tous, le Potentiel de Réalité est dans l'esprit de l'individu.

Si le Mal et le Bien doivent coexister, que l'équilibre est constamment remis en cause, c'est bien dans l'esprit de chaque individu que cela se passe. c'est le Potentiel de Réalité qui subit les fluctuations de la conscience.

Chacun d'entre nous à le choix de ses actes (meme si ce n'est que le choix de la réaction et pas de l'action).

Certains se rendent compte de ce choix au quotidien, d'autres on l'impression de subir la vie, et beaucoup se situe entre les deux extrêmes. Quoi qu'il en soit, le choix existe toujours plus ou moins consciemment.

C'est ainsi que les concepts voulant généraliser et réduire l'humain selon ses réactions à des experiences données ne peuvent jamais s'avérer justes, car un individu au moins faussera la théorie.

Faire le Bien ou faire le Mal, voilà le choix qui nous appartiens. Ce sont les actes et non les pensées qui régissent l'expérience partagée qu'est la vie.

La paix dans le monde, une question de choix.

Good vs Evil, Reality vs Potential

An interesting conversation I had the other day...

Good and Evil is a concept we created to explain the choices people make during their lifetimes.
Morality is a human creation, just another word.

If we forget about words for a minute, we have human beings, as evolved as any terrestrial organism gets (in our current knowledge), an animal capable of conscious thought, leading to choices. Choices are what make us human.

Whatever it is that can be imagined by a mind, that very thought may be applied and made true for others to share in the experience.
If you dream of flying, you might want to go on and make that dream become a reality! (it's sort of ''been there done that'' now though...)
If you dream of raping someone, you might want to go on and make that dream a reality too...

Introducing the concept of potential reality vs reality

You might dream very many Evil things, you might also dream very Good things but only those dreams which are applied to the shared world of human beings become actual realities. The dream represent only a potential reality.

That explains many failed geniuses who have great ideas but never act them out...

It also explains how many stupider individuals rise by acting rather than thinking forever.

It also refutes the idea that some have about Good and Evil having to part of reality for balance and equilibrium.

Balance, and long lasting peace can be achieved, according to me, through self-control, in each of us.
We are the only ones who are able to choose what we do with our life time, how we deal with our experiences. Whatever happens to any indididual does not necessarily condition a general response, quite the contrary, each one is likely to react in a very specific way.
Whether we realise that we chose our actions or whether we feel like our reactions are outside of our control, we cannot deny the power of our conscious choice. The power to stop, think and chose our course of action is very real.

Good and Evil, it's all in the head. Reality is what counts for the World we all share.

World peace anyone?


Thursday, January 12, 2006


If we step back and wonder about the purpose of our lives as human beings, we'll usually find that is it more meaningful if we can leave something behind after we've gone, some kind of legacy.

So we build long lasting buildings, they will stand tall when we're nothing but ashes

We start companies, they too may last after we've passed

We write books, they'll be read even when we're gone

We find new knowledge, because our contribution will always be remembered

There are many ways to try and cheat impermanence, to give the impression of eternity, of eternal life...

In truth,

Our buildings will eventually be outdated either in style or in functionality

Our companies will be bought, sold, reorganised and even dismantled over time

Our books will become obsolete, not contemporary enough, historic relics

Our contribution to human knowledge will be surpassed by new knowledge and forgotten

All these things have to be replaced, renewed, change is inherent to life.

However, I believe there is one thing that one may do to live forever

Make babies, raise them well.

Their children and their children's children and so on will be the longest lasting reflexion of your life.

We're all self-centered and selfish but what we make of these caracteristics is up to us.


Monday, December 12, 2005

Individualism and Society

Correct me if I'm wrong but doesn't the very meaning of society deny individualism???

Many individuals who don't coooperate cannot reasonably form a viable society...right?

What are we doing?

Individualism, recoil from reality, experience your bubble, imagine your surroundings, deny your curiosity, fall in despair, burrowed in your hole, afraid and more still....

I'm only twenty-two this year but thinking about growing up to now, I found myself feeling somewhat abandoned. Not that my parents didn't have time for me, not that I'm an only child, not that I'm anti-social...in my experience, it was never clear how to be a "human boy", the "right" way to "do it", growing up was like threading in a jungle, having to cut the branches to find my way. It was like standing in muddy water on a foggy day trying to get to a shore that I can't see. I won't even ask if it's just me, because I know many feel this way.

But is it normal? (accepting that normalcy does not have to be associated with narrowness)

To me (of course), human being, a social animal, the animal with the most consciousness, the smartest one, the one who evolves and adapts... To me, society, the organisation of human minds together, the organisation of human life on earth, should have a function to educate the new generations. Isn't that the point?

To perpetuate the species, to make sure the next generations has all the tools to continue with evolution. To make sure a youth grows up in an environment that encourages his positive human development, to make sure his questions are answered, his curiosity fostered...

Individualism, abandonned, shamed, confused, lost, small victories, condemned, sidestepped, money-hunger, love-monger.


Sunday, December 11, 2005

Media, reality, Europe vs America

I was just reading a post from Loic Lemeur's blog http://www.loiclemeur.com/english/2005/11/vive_la_france_.html

and found myself wondering about the differences I have noted in European vs American people (in generalising terms of course) since moving from Canada to France a year and a half ago. I used to live in Montreal and now I live in the south of France.

The first thing I noticed was how fresh the faces of youths seemed as compared to the ones I knew back in Canada. Eyes wide, curiosity lurking behind an open stare, general disposition towards honesty, no pretense in their manners, no affectations, just simplicity. I found them beautiful.
Upon interacting with them, I was shocked (a strong word befitting my inexperience) by their level of culture, their well-spoken words, their interest in politics and propensity to be critical thinkers, they were proud to be knowledgeable of the world and to expres their, more often than not, open-minded views.

Perhaps I did not have the most open minded ways back in Canada, and most certainly I did not seek to step outside of my well-to-do box. Perhaps there are many who will disagree with me. In any case I found that many youth in America (I generalise because I have had the opportunity to travel) have given up on critical thinking, on politics and the likes to focus their energy on things seemingly more accesible and fun. Consumers from a young age, competitors in their own minds, superstars waiting to be discovered but already living the high life (and I don't just mean that figuratively).

What of the media I introduced in the title? Well, I hadn't seen the reports on France's riots but friends in Paris had told me about the situation being what it was : anger and frustration expressed locally, in different cities, not civil war, not affecting the average citizen in his daily activities (except those close to said riots of course).

A nice example of media manipulation...I think so.

The news, intended to keep you up to date on the happenings of the world with unbiased reporting, now sell you entertainment, they sell you a reality that is comforting (or not), the consequence being that you are more disposed towards staying put and being docile. Two extremes exist, the safer you feel or the more you are scared, the easier it becomes to feed you lies and sell you products, the less likely you are to go out and communicate with people, discuss new ideas, disturb the scheme of things.

Another difference comes up. In America the media reports and the citizens believe. Whereas in Europe, the media reports, the citizens find out more information and then choose to believe, or not...

Of course having been here for about a year I am noticing the degradation of critical minds here too. The tendency to favor mindlessness over mindfullness. When you feel your opinion does not matter, when you feel you have no control over what is happening on earth to human society, then you let go and you worry about your own life instead of bothering with others...your life becomes a collection of private, personal happenings never encompassing more than your immediate surrounding...and that is our sad story.


let's be free

I was staring at the sky the other day and my mind just left and soared outside my window.
I travelled the world, unseen, able to view human interaction.

I concluded that the states of mind that make up the human psyche and are often not voluntary. A lot of times action is instinctual or habitual. There is no pause between the thought and the action, there is a need to "do".
I noted that, for most, the motivation was good ...or at least there was some realisation when action led to negative results... in fact there was a lot of guilt which did not necessarily lead to change.
I noted that many many people were not really doing what they truly wanted to do. That boggled my mind... Why have the chance to live, this one time to live and spend it doing things that do not fullfill...

I went back to my room feeling sad at the state of the world but hopeful because basic human kindness lives on, sometimes overuled, but always in the foundations.


Monday, November 28, 2005


This is dedicated to people.

I love you, whoever you are, whether you read this or not. I can't help it. I love people.

I love people. When I find that someone is too needy of me, that they cling to me as though I have the answers that they are looking for (which I don't have!) I get annoyed, so I try not to cling.

I used to be a victim of life and when I found someone that would listen or stay around me, it made me feel safe and I clung to that safety. Now I believe in change and impermanence.

I love people. When I find someone that seems disinterested in me, I get disinterested too and I don't keep in touch with that person, so I try to be real with my feelings.

For a moment, when I met someone I liked, I knew that they would not be a part of my life forever, because life is change and people will come and go and sometimes, that kept me from letting myself get too close, I acted disinterested, I was afraid of getting hurt sometime down the line you see, and the person would not stick around for long... Now I realise I should indeed get close, let myself get close, enjoy the moment that we pass together and deal, in due time, when that moment is gone.

Life is safe, let people in and let yourself be.